How To Avoid Being A Bridesmaid
Scared of being a bridesmaid? Don’t have the time? Too much responsibility? Don’t money? Well, not to worry, this article can give you some great tips on how to avoid being a bridesmaid. I’ll tell you right now that sometimes it is much easier to just suck it up and deal with the inconvience. Sometimes it’s not worth sacrificing your relationship with your friend to again a little extra time or cash. However, I see that you are still reading the article and that I’m not going to change your mind, so here are some great tips. A few excuses you can try to use are as follows. If you get a pushy bride or really hurt her feelings you might want to consider combining multiple of these excuses. But please, actually call her. Don’t just text her one of these excuses.
1.) My kids come first – Ever try to find a babysitter that you can actually trust? Hopefully the bride will understand, especially if she wants to have kids some day. However, it’s going to take some convincing to pull this one off. Just wait till a time when your kids are acting up and are way worse than normal. Call your friend and decline while the kids are screaming and throwing a tantrum. How is the bride going to get offended with all that chaos in the background? If you play your cards right, this one will definitely work.
2.) I’m poor – Especially if you are in college or if you have kids this one can be pulled off though it is much more difficult than the first excuse. Try showing the bride an empty wallet. Say that you can’t afford to pay for the dress and/or help pay for the bachelorette party. Show the bride your student loans or credit card bills. You can also try declining and then asking to borrow some money. Or if you think you might get chosen as a bridesmaid you can try a pre-emptive strike. Ask to borrow some money before she even asks you to be a bridesmaid.
3.) Being the center of attention will make me pass out – This will work especially if you already come across as being nervous. Some people can’t stand to be the center of attention. Say that you have fainted in the past, and that you really are afraid you might pass out while walking down the aisle.
4.) I’m too scared to give a speech – Even if this one doesn’t work, you will at least get out of giving a speech. Considering the maid of honor is expected to give a speech, maybe it will even let you get out of being the maid of honor. Because the maid of honor has so much more responsibility, it could be worth it.
5.) Lie – Just make up something crazy. Say you have a chronic illness or say that you have to be out of town that weekend or you will lose your job. If you make up something good enough you can get out of being a bridesmaid but it will likely mean you have to miss the wedding too.
If the bride is really as good of a friend as you are hoping for, maybe she won’t force you into doing something that you don’t want to do. However, I wouldn’t count on this one. If you really, really don’t want to be a bridesmaid, you may consider telling her as soon as she gets engaged before she has the opportunity to ask you. Whatever you do, just make sure you are supportive of the wedding. If you end up having to do something you don’t want to do in order to keep the friend ship, then so be it.